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Pretty sure it is a people are different trait, although it is pretty easy to get distracted by the small details.

I used to do the small detailed work which was great, and had managers that asked for estimates and ignored them and others than listened and used them, but of course estimates are estimates. Now I do project management and do my best to use the longest possible estimate, sometimes offering to add extra, because it is necessary to know when things are most likely to be done so something else that is dependent on it being done is ready. Barely anything actually meets exact deadlines of course, but planning ahead helps with keeping things from being so overwhelmed that they can’t be done.

But I can’t do both the details and the big picture at the same time. One or the other on a particular day for personal stuff and one or the other for longer periods of time at work.

Same thing with “5 year plans”. I literally cannot do it because 1. All my plans involve “have money to do thing” and 2. You could easily get cancer and die in 5 years (or other big changes).

For me, any kind of long term planning is likely to be interrupted by the unexpected but if I don’t have something to work towards then I will just be stuck in a daily loop of ‘doing something tomorrow’ and then never doing anything because everything will get done ‘tomorrow’. I have just accepted that ADHD is going to reduce my productivity for necessary things and hobbies by few hours out of every day compared to the average person and work around that.

In both examples one of the two states is split geographically which guarantees conflict over the ability to physically move between parts of that state.

Same, but non-malicious manipulation isn’t a negative and most people do that kind of thing subconsciously all the time. Like someone being friendly in the elevator despite having a rough morning because it puts other people at ease.

Apparently we are cursed to overthink these kinds of things.

I have ADHD and love explaining things and it took years of practice to get an idea of what level of detail to get into depending on the audience. The main thing is to always approach it as sharing knowledge, not telling someone else to think. The difference isn’t obvious, but at a basic level asking if they have thought of something a certain way just lands better than telling them something as if it was a fact even when it is a fact. In a group setting sprinkling in words like ‘maybe we should’ and ‘what if we did’ make being listened to more likely. I think it is stupid because it is working around people’s default rejection of finding out they don’t know or are wrong about something, but apparently it is necessary for most people.

Also making sure to keep a slow pacing helps immensely. I tend to speed up as I go and sometimes have soneone I trust give me hints I’m going too fast so I can slow back down again.

Now I get asked to explain technical things to non-technical people, which is fun most of the time.

“Stop talking down to me.” - willfully ignorant person.

Seriously though, that is great advice and involves continual practice.

Epstein and brother Epstein had an email exchange talking about how Donnie gave Bubba a blowjob and Putin has the tape. Trump has a nickname of Donnie and Clinton has the nickname Bubba.

Or an interactive rubber duck.

I just keep rescheduling the calendar reminders because they always come up when I’m already doing something else.

Those are normal behaviors dialed up to 11 and causing problems.

Ignore them when they harm society. They don’t get the freedom to commit murder and they shouldn’t get the freedom to not follow public health requirement just because they have some mumbo jumbo excuse.

Me: I’ll jerk off and decide with a clear mind!

later

Brain: borrrrreeeeed