I didn’t know .ml made up half of Lemmy 🤔

I sympathize. Weed is bad for focusing, but good for helping me sleep when the Shame thoughts come. And at its peak I was drinking around 1000mg of caffeine via coffee a day and I still was barely functional. It took me at least three years to find a company that would take my insurance and also do the testing. Now that I have my brain drugs I don’t think I can go back. And it’s giving me mental space to work through the old traumas, which means less weed to sleep and less often. My goal is to not be reliant on cannabis or antidepressants, hopefully by the end of 2026. But I definitely need the medicine now so that I have the mental capacity to do the therapy work

Putting this disclaimer generally comes across as much more combative and much more like intentional misgendering than simply using words like “dude” and “guy” in gender neutral ways.

Fair. I’ll make another edit

I’m going to look this up in the book of Sam’s law.

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Oh, look at that! It says dude is gender neutral. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to go find a redneck that put trucknuts on his Dodge Ram and congratulate him on helping his truck transition to male

E: sorry not trying to be a dick, it just comes naturally. I’ll leave my original response up so everyone can know my shame. Also rednecks are pretty easy to troll

I didn’t get diagnosed until I was in my mid-forties. I’m from the same generation of “drugs for kids are bad, just let them be kids”, with an added sprinkling of “my kid can’t have ADHD, he’s too smart”.

Dude•, I fully endorse behavioral changes to mitigate ADHD behaviors, but they only go so far. As my address levels increased with age, my coping methods gradually fell apart, and then very suddenly collapsed. I spent the last three months drinking shit-loads of coffee and spending all of my office time playing FTL instead of taking care of essential administrative tasks. It was getting bad.

The point is, therapy and behavioral changes are good. But they have limits. Don’t rule out medication, just trust the doctor to know their shit. Also advocate for yourself if the doctor is too cautious. Mine was worried about stimulants and my blood pressure at my age and (lack of) cardiovascular health. It hasn’t been a problem at all

eta: •dude is officially a gender neutral term btw

e^2: i have been told the above is more harmful than not. I’m not too proud to admit I have more to learn

It took me two years to find someone that not only would take Medicaid, but also would do the diagnostic testing in a way that would not cost me anything out of pocket.

After months of chasing down “in network” therapists and psychiatrists, leaving voicemails and getting ghosted, do you know how I found them? They were a customer I installed hardware for. I casually asked if they took Medicaid and could do ADHD diagnostic testing and the on site contact was like “Yeah, no problem. And we know how to code it so Medicaid will pay for it. Just fill out the online form and we’ll get you started that week.”

My boss is a slave-driving asshole that doesn’t pay me enough. Accounting has their head so far up their ass they can see their own duodenum. Scheduling thinks I can be in two places at once, and purchasing seems to think materials magically appear on site the day they’re ordered

I am, of course, self employed, and do all of the administrative tasks myself

Fun fact! I first sought diagnostic testing for ADHD after so many memes resonated at a spiritual level. Brain drugs are awesome and now I won’t have to file for bankruptcy because of never actually sending any goddamn invoices to my customers

After pursuing them for two years I finally got prescribed stimulants and ho-leee shit is it effective for me. I actually can do the thing I remember needs doing instead of putting it off

Conversely…