That’s absolutely true. If your comment had said “That can be a trauma response that manifests in some NDs lvining in an NT world. It’s not always innate.” I wouldn’t have replied.
There are a depressing number of people who make very absolute claims that all the problems of neurodiversity come from the world not being designed for them. While I understand why it sometimes feels like that, it’s absolutely not true for many people with ASD, ADHD, etc.
My ADHD family and I rush through things and interrupt each other because if we don’t were likely to forget something important that just popped into our mind. But by interrupting we made the other one forget what they were talking about.
Living in a world that isn’t adapted to my needs can be exhausting, but it’s not the reason I rush through things. That’s pretty innate to my neurodiversity.
Thanks for the reminder, I had genuinely forgotten this morning. Why is it so hard?
I basically agree with you. But I will say that there’s increasing research on the role of emotions in adhd that suggests that we are prone to having more extreme reactions. Everyone remembers the cringe moments but maybe we get more embarrassed about smaller things, and they stick in our mind. Similarly, everyone has difficulty moving on from something that enraged them but people have different thresholds for what throws them into that heightened state.
Unless I’m burned out, lying horizontal on my couch, using the smallest possible gesture to continue doomscrolling.
When I lived alone I ended up airbnbing my spare room. It was sometimes stressful, but it meant my house was constantly tidy. As soon it was just me the entire house would sink in to madness.
Something I’ve tried to do is figure out a safe departure time rationally, then set a timer for 15 minutes before. Knowinf that I don’t have to remember or think or judge whetjer its getting late has been really helpful for escaping that endless clock-checking stress.